Day 10 – Success Strategies (Focus & Gratitude)
Speaker 1: (00:01)
Hey, welcome back. Thanks for joining again today and if this is your first time joining, I appreciate it. If you’d go check out some of the other videos I’ve done, just go to www.JeffHeggie.com and go to Success Strategies up at the top and you’ll be able to see all the other ones. But hopefully these have been useful for you and you’re getting something out of them. I know I have, it’s been nice doing them because it makes me think about things and I’ve just enjoyed doing it. So hopefully this has been a benefit for you as well. I actually, when I was coming home from my run today, I actually recorded one of these already to post and was going to use, but I’ve had some thoughts since then and I wanted to add a few things. So I’m going to do it again.
Speaker 1: (00:39)
I’m going to talk about a couple things. One, what I talked about this morning, was talking about the things that we focus on because really what we focus on is ends up being the life that we live. And as we like we’re, we’re sitting here on Friday. Again, I talked about it, I don’t know when it was a few episodes ago that I talked about, you know, setting your goals, setting your intentions, um, while you’re working from home and we’re in this pandemic that you can make sure you’re still productive, getting things done. And so I want you to look at your week and see what you did accomplish. And I didn’t get this posted as early as I thought, but even if you’re not seeing it till later on, look at what you still have to accomplish throughout this week to make this a successful week for you to make it so that you’ve accomplished everything you set out to do on Monday and put your focus on that.
Speaker 1: (01:34)
Put your focus and effort and put all your energy and make today if it has to be the most productive day of the week and get things done so that you can wrap the week up and either go into the weekend for more work or be with family or whatever. It’s going to be with everything that you wanted to accomplish by Friday down and out of the way. Um, you know, when we talk, when we talk about focus, there’s a common saying that you hear energy flows where, sorry, where focus goes, energy flows. And so as you really focus on the things that are most important to you, you’re going to be able to put all your energy there and that’s when you’re going to accomplish those things. So that’s number one. That’s what I wanted to talk about. But there’s also, I just got off the call with a client that we talked about something that I want to share as well.
Speaker 1: (02:27)
It’s something that I’ve done myself in the past. I’ve had clients do it in the past. I asked this client to do it and it was actually a good friend of mine, Joseph talked to me about it just a while ago. I’m with Jim quick if you don’t know Jim quick. I knew of him, uh, some of his work, but after Joseph talked to me about it and some of his things that he was teaching, I went and started studying some of gym stuff and I actually ended up being in a course right now. I wanted gyms and the thing that Jim was talking about in the thing that Joseph brought up to me was how a gratitude journal can help people that are dealing with anxiety and depression. And so, you know, with myself or with these clients that I’m working with, that wasn’t the intention of the gratitude journal.
Speaker 1: (03:15)
But I, I agree with it. I think there’s a lot of opportunity there to use a gratitude journal to help you with that. But there’s also a lot more than comes out of it that I think is very worthwhile. And if you’ve never done one before, give it a try. Just give it a week. Go for a week, see how it goes. And I’m going to give you two different ways to do it. One for yourself and one for you and a significant other or a friend or whatever it might be. Number one is just this client that I was just working with. Uh, she meditates every morning. And so what I asked her to do is immediately after her meditation, just spend five minutes and just start writing about things that you’re grateful for. And I told her one day it might be deep and really meaningful and the next day you might be saying, you know, I’m grateful that I got out of bed this morning.
Speaker 1: (04:08)
But just start writing and recognizing all the blessings you have in your life. Because even if you’re having a terrible day, even if things are going awful, the fact that you can spend some time and focus on some things that you’re grateful for will go a long ways. And so spend at least five minutes a day writing in a gratitude journal that your focus on those blessings in your life and you’re going to see a shift in a see a mindset shift and you’ll start recognizing and realizing that even when things are bad, your life is full of blessings and opportunities. Now the other way, and I did this actually, I don’t know, I believe it was Darren Hardy. I learned it from, um, I wrote a gratitude journal every day for I don’t know how many months, but what I would write in it is everything that I was grateful for about my spouse, about my wife, Tamara.
Speaker 1: (05:04)
And just every single day I wrote, you know, just a few lines, a paragraph of something I was grateful for. Sometimes, like I was saying with this gratitude journal, sometimes it was deep. Sometimes I was grateful that she did my laundry. Um, sometimes I was grateful that she folded my clothes, made me dinner, whatever it might be. But every day I wrote about something that I was grateful for. And what I noticed is I started looking for things that she was doing that I was grateful for. So every day I was recognizing those things that whether she was purposely doing something for me, going out of her way to do something or if it was just what she does every day, I was recognizing all that she does for me, my family, whatever it is. And so I want you to do that. Whether it’s a spouse, a friend, family member, whatever, try that as well.
Speaker 1: (05:57)
Start writing in it everyday. Something you’re grateful for, what they’ve done, what they do. And, and then the best part was she didn’t know I was doing it. And then one day I gave it to her and you know, it was pretty meaningful. It went a long way in helping solidify and build our relationship for her to be able to go through there and see the, I actually recognized all the different things that she did. Um, you know, there’s so many times that your spouse does things that they don’t get recognized for. And when you do something like that and they can see that you appreciate it, that you don’t take it for granted. It goes a long ways and I think the opportunity to do that was helpful to me, but it was helpful for her as well to see that I recognize those things.
Speaker 1: (06:49)
So again, looking at end in this week, it’s Friday, uh, hope you have a great weekend, whether you’re working, spending time with family, whatever it is, hope it’s great and productive and you can get things done. But really focus on getting things wound up for your Friday, what you wanted to be accomplishing by this time. When you sat down on Monday and you were looking at what you wanted to get done, let’s get it done. Get caught up. If you’re ahead, get some extra done, whatever it is, and then, you know, take some time to start five minutes a day is all it’s going to take. You can figure out how to carve out five minutes, especially right now, when everyone’s home, five minutes a day, write in a gratitude journal, write everything you can think of that you’re grateful for. Every day it’s going to be different.
Speaker 1: (07:35)
There’s going to be days that it’s the same things over and over. You’re grateful for the exact same things, but it’s gonna change your focus. It’s going to change what you’re focusing on and it’s gonna help you to recognize those blessings. And then the same thing, doing one for your spouse or for someone else will wreck. You’ll start to recognize and focus on the blessing they bring to your life as well. So thank you. Have a great day. Have a great weekend, and I probably won’t see you til Monday, but we will do another one of these then and keep in touch. Go to www.JeffHeggie.com and sign up for the Momentum Training, it’s free. Yesterday I talked about signing up, going through that and then giving me some feedback. I would love to hear feedback on it. Please. When you go through it, it’s only three videos that’ll come out every couple days and the, I think the longest one is 30 minutes and the rest are about 1213 minutes.
Speaker 1: (08:30)
It doesn’t take a lot of time, but I think there’s really some impactful information in there that will be helpful for you as you’re dealing with things as we’re going through this pandemic. But even if, whether we’re in this pandemic or not, there’s some great things that talks about the Momentum Cycle and how to build confidence and how to change cycles when you’re on a downward cycle. And then it goes into creating your path and finding out what your goals are, where you want to be in a year, and how you’re going to get there. And then on the last day it talks about figuring out for each of your goals what your why is, why you truly want to do it. And it’s a, it’s a really cool exercise to go through that. It’s not just here’s my why, this is why I want it. It makes you do some thinking and it makes you dig down and you’ll realize some things that you didn’t know before. So thanks and again, go to www.JeffHeggie.com to get that and we will talk to you again on Monday. Take care.