The Crowd’s Chanting ‘Airball’… You’re Thinking, ‘NEXT!’

One of the most difficult things I deal with in coaching high school basketball is getting the players to buy into the “Next Mentality.” It’s not much different between boys teams, girls teams, the star players or the bench warmers. When they screw up, it’s hard for them to forget about it. It’s not just with screw up’s either, it might just be a missed shot, botched defensive assignment or something else. With some players, if they miss a shot, it’s over. You’re not going to see them take another shot. They’re not going to take the chance of missing again. 

Over the years I’ve improved at coaching the “Next Mentality,” but I know that I’m far from perfect because I had a player going into their third year of playing for me that had to have a refresher last week. If I’ve done my job right, each player on my team should know their role. They should know their assignments. They know the shots they should take as well as the shots they shouldn’t take. So if they are playing their role and doing the things they are supposed to, but a shot doesn’t drop… WHO CARES?! That does not mean you stop shooting or fulfilling your role. But most important, it does not mean you dwell on it and keep beating yourself up over it. It’s over, you’re not going to change it, NEXT! Then the next time down the floor, when you get that same shot that you just missed, there’s no hesitation, you confidently shoot it again. You’re not even thinking about that last shot that you missed. Maybe you make it, maybe you miss it. Either way… NEXT!

I was recently having a conversation with someone who wanted to grow their brand online but they were beginning to fear putting their thoughts out there because on a few of their posts they had some haters add some really negative comments. The first time it happened they were devastated. They couldn’t get it off of their mind and began wondering if they should just throw in the towel. They didn’t know the person, but the comment stung.

When they asked me my opinion on whether or not they should keep going I asked them to tell me again why they were doing it. When we talked about their purpose and their why, the actions they had been taking were a good fit for what their goals are. So my suggestion to them was, “Next!” 

I explained to them that if they were the best shooter on my basketball team and they shot an airball in a game, I wouldn’t want them to stop shooting for the rest of the game just because the opposing fans were chanting ‘airball’.

Look at the biggest influencers out there today. GaryVee puts out insane amounts of content. Does he only get positive, supportive feedback and comments? Of course not. But if he quit creating content after his first hater made a negative comment would he have 6.4M followers on Instagram (@garyvee), 1.9M followers on Twitter (@garyvee), 3.2M followers on Facebook (Facebook.com/gary/), plus the millions more following his other channels? No he wouldn’t. So why did he keep going?

Well, on Twitter he told us exactly why: “I just done give a @%#$ about what anybody thinks about me, because they don’t know who the @%#$ I am inside.”

So why do you spend your time stressed about a negative comment from someone who doesn’t even know you. There’s too much to get done in this life to spend time valuing someone else’s negative opinion. Fulfill your role.  Take your shot. If it was a good shot and you miss, don’t worry about what anyone else says or thinks.  You’re not going to change it. Don’t dwell on it or waste your time thinking about it. Just be ready to keep shooting! NEXT!

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A Lesson Zuck Taught Me

I recently read The Facebook Effect: The Inside Story of the Company That Is Connecting the World by David Kirkpatrick. I thought it was a fascinating book. Although I’m not in Silicon Valley and I’m not running a tech company, I think there was a lot to learn from this book.  I’m not talking about the start in your dorm room or follow your love type of stuff. I’m talking about something much more valuable. I’m talking about focus and confidence.

Mark Zuckerberg had multiple opportunities to make himself a very rich man very early on in the life of Facebook. Opportunities that would have saved him from headaches and a lot of work down the road. Opportunities that would have let him work on new projects without worrying about money.

But Zuck had a vision of the future for Facebook. He had a vision for what it was meant to bring to the world. So regardless of the exit options he was offered with, regardless of the dollars flashed in front if him, he stayed on plan with a focus and confidence to take it where he knew it could go. His focus and determination continue to move the company forward.

The wording in the Amazon.com review say it well. “Kirkpatrick shows how Zuckerberg steadfastly refused to compromise his vision, insistently focusing on growth over profits and preaching that Facebook must dominate (his word) communication on the Internet.”

Facebook’s IPO.  How many expected, how many wanted to see the Facebook IPO flop?  This was all still a part of Zuck’s focused march toward his goal.  Today he sits at #11 on the Forbes 400 list as the biggest dollar gainer of the year after his Facebook stock has soared, adding $15 billion to his net worth in the past year.  I think he’s done something right.

Have there been failures along the way for Zuck.  Yes, of course there have been.  That’s part of the whole story.  But in the end he knew what he wanted, he knew what he needed to do to get there and he kept his focus.  I’m anxious to watch how the rest of the story unfolds for this man, this company and this industry.

So what can you and I learn from this?  Is it that when we have come up with another “best idea ever” we give it all of our focus and march forward no matter what?  Hoping that it all works out and ignoring any advice or guidance that might tell us we are on the wrong track? Of course not.  One of the most valuable things a business owner can do is surround herself with others that are smarter than she is.  Others that have experience, that can give advice and guidance.  Zuck hasn’t done everything on his own without help, input and guidance from mentors.  What he has done is known where his company could go and kept his focus on getting it there.

We have squirrels everywhere that distract us from focusing on the most important things that will make ourselves and our companies successful.  On our journey to success, we need to have our goals, to have the end in mind.  But most importantly, we need to be able to keep our eye on the target, to keep our focus and to know what needs to be done to get there.  Distractions and opportunities will try to pull you away.  For Zuck, some of those distractions were opportunities to put millions of dollars in his pocket.  But his goal meant more to him than those dollars and he knew that when he achieved his goals there would be extra zeros added to the dollars in his pocket.

Focus.  Work hard.  Work smart.  Commit yourself to your goal.  It won’t be the amount of time you spend at the office that matters, it will be the amount of time that you spend in focused concentration working towards your goal.  Good luck!