Surround Yourself With Greatness

You’ve probably heard the Jim Rohn quote before, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

How true is this statement? If it’s true, what areas of your life does it impact?

It is true, and it impacts every aspect of your life. Your level of wealth, your happiness, aspirations and goals, health and physical condition, relationships and attitudes. I could keep going. 

We want our kids to hang out with good friends that will be positive influences on them. In Surround Yourself With Greatness, Chad Lewis says, “It is vital to surround ourselves with good friends as it is for a fish to live in water, especially in our teenage years. It is critically important to our lives, our future, our health, and our safety to be around positive influences, people who don’t tempt us but rather help us make good decisions. A friend who sees the good in us and encourages us to be our best self is worth more than his weight in pure gold.”

It’s no different in our adult lives. It is vital that we surround ourselves with the right people.

“He that walks with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”

Proverbs 13:20

 If the people you spend the most time with have a negative outlook on life, focus on the bad, are always blaming others for their difficulties and are generally just negative, how do you expect to be happy and have a positive approach to life? 

Look at the people around you. Are they more successful than you? Are they doing and working towards the things that you want in your life? What direction are they going? Where are they going to be in twenty years? Is it the direction you want to be going? They are either pulling you up, or dragging you down. Which is it?

In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill said, “Every man is what he is, because of the dominating thoughts which he permits to occupy his mind… We are what we are, because of the vibrations of thought which we pick up and register, through the stimuli of our daily environment.” 

The people around you can elevate you as much as they bring you down. I have a business partner that always has huge goals and aspirations and always has an incredibly positive attitude towards life and the future. Sometimes when I’m faced with difficulties and things just aren’t working out, I’ll go meet with him just for the pep talk. I know that just by spending time with him and talking with him I’ll leave with a positive attitude ready and excited to take on the world!

Who do you want to be? What goals do you have? 

Are you getting closer to your goals or do you seem to keep running into obstacles that are holding you back?

Now, who are the five people that you currently spend the most time with? Do these people match who you want to be in the future?

Who are the top five people who embody the qualities you desire, or have done the things you are aspiring towards? How can you increase your contact with them?

You want those you spend time with to encourage and support you. You want them to help you achieve your goals. If you’re always the smartest, strongest, richest, whatever-est person in your group, you are in the wrong group. You need someone to motivate and inspire you to get better. To make you think bigger and believe it is possible. 

It’s amazing the impact people can have in your life through their example, encouragement and belief in you. Just be honest with yourself as you look around and recognize if your relationships are empowering you and helping you to achieve your dreams.

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“Stop trying to network in the traditional business sense. Instead, just try to build up the number and depth of your friendships, where the friendship itself is it’s own reward.” Tony Hsieh

 

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The Most Gifted and Recommended Books from Tools of Titans by Tim Ferris

This list is at the end of a previous post, Review Notes from Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss, but I wanted to add it here to keep it separate for reference.

Many of these top 17 books are some that I have already read. But for those that I have not, they are next on my list. If you’re interested in any of them click on their title or join Audible and listen to them. Try Audible and Get Two Free Audiobooks

In addition to this list, there are a number of other great books listed in Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers by Tim Ferriss. Check it out, it’s a great book.

The Most-Gifted And Recommended Books of All Guests
  1. Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu
  2. Atlas Shrugged by Ayn Rand
  3. Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harai
  4. Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse
  5. The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich by Tim Ferriss
  6. The Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things Right by Atul Gawande
  7. Dune by Frank Herbert
  8. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, Revised Edition by Robert Cialdini
  9. Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert
  10. Superintelligence: Paths, Dangers, Strategies by Nick Bostrom
  11. Surely You’re Joking, Mr. Feynman! (Adventures of a Curious Character) by Richard P Feynman
  12. The 4 Hour Body: An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat Loss, Incredible Sex and Becoming Superhuman by Tim Ferriss
  13. The Bible
  14. The Hard Things About Hard Things by Ben Horowitz
  15. The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles by Steven Pressfield
  16. Watchmen by Alan Moore
  17. Zero to One: Notes on Startups, or How to Build the Future by Peter Thiel with Black Masters.

Build Your Network for Success

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My daughter is a junior in high school and is trying to figure out the path she wants to take in life. To help her out I took her to visit with an amazing friend of mine. She runs multiple, successful companies. She serves on multiple boards. He has an incredible family. She serves extensively in our church. I could go on and on, but lets just say if I’d like my daughter to get some life advice, she’s a great one to be getting it from.
As I sat listening to the two of them talk, my friend shared stories, helped make plans and gave some great advice. But there was one part of the conversation that I’ve been thinking a lot about since that meeting. They had been taking about some specific universities and she had told my daughter who her contacts were at these universities. My daughter made a comment about how she seemed to know everybody.
This was the most valuable lesson my daughter could learn in this meeting. My friend expressed to my daughter the importance of who you know.
Does it really matter who you know?
Does it really matter how big or connected your network is?
Really, how valuable is your network?
Your network is everything!
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As I’ve said in other posts, people are going to do business (or whatever you are relating this to) with people they know, like and trust. Products and services obviously all come into play but on an even playing field, more often than not the decision maker is going to go with the person or company she knows, likes and trusts.
I think back to some of my major business transactions and in every case I had a relationship with the decision maker or the person who sent the referral. Your ability to build the proper network around you will determine your success in everything that you do.
In Thou Shall Prosper: Ten Commandments for Making Money, Rabbi Daniel Lapin talks a great deal about the importance of building your network. He advises us to “build genuine and sincere relationships with as many people as possible with no thought of reward.” This is the key in building your network. Be genuine. Build Friendships. Don’t build relationships based on wanting to know what that person can do to help you. Look for opportunities to help others in your network without expecting anything in return.
As you build and foster relationships you will discover opportunities to serve others and when the time comes that you are in need, you will have someone within your network that you can turn to.
Is there someone right now that you want to connect to? Figure out how you can help them with something they need done. 
Prompt: Learning Together

Bucket List Adventures

I have quite a large bucket list of things that I want to do an accomplish. But I have had the opportunity to knock quite a few things off that list. I’ve put together some clips of some of those things.

Things checked off the list in this video:

  1. Skydiving (the free-fall was the best part)
  2. Swimming with sharks in Hawaii (with my daughter)
  3. Meet / Play basketball with Michael Jordan
  4. Zip-Lines (Whitefish Mountain, Montana)
  5. Air Chair water skiing (Lake 5, Montana – wasn’t good at this at all!)
  6. Dog Sledding (with my wife – it was her present to me for my birthday)
  7. Swimming with dolphins on the Big Island of Hawaii (with my son and daughter)
  8. Visit Greece (with my wife)
  9. Fly gliders in Hawaii (so cool seeing the whales as we flew out over the ocean)
  10. Visit Africa (with my wife)
  11. Professional Rodeo Cowboy – Steer Wrestler (in the video: Innisfail Pro Rodeo, Red Deer Pro Rodeo, Calgary Stampede)
  12. Razr and Dirt Biking in the mountains
  13. Climb Old Chief
  14. Caribbean Cruise (with my wife and some friends)
  15. Helicopter Ride over Hoover Dam (with buddies Jeremy and Tyson)

So much more to do!!!