Don’t Give Up On Your Goals

Take a moment and look at your life. The year 2020 is 125 days away. Let that sink in. Is this where you thought you would be in 2020?

When you were a little kid, what did 2020 look like in your mind?

 When you were a young adult, what were you going to do with your life by 2020?

What about January 1, 2019? What were you going to accomplish this year?

Many people take a good, hard look at their lives at the end of each year and set their big hairy audacious goals for the coming year, and then they forget about them for eleven and a half months.

Let’s stop right now and take a look at this. If you have been focused and taking massive actions on your 2019 goals, congratulations. Keep it up. I hope you achieve everything you desire. 

For everyone else, I want you to look back on the past eight months. What were those goals and desires? What’s held you back from achieving them? Are you even trying to achieve them still?

Now reset. Get your butt back in gear.

Do you realize what is possible in 125 days? Yea, it would be nice if you could just continue off the momentum of the past 240 days, but if they haven’t been as productive as they should have been, don’t give up on the year. 

Why do people give up on their goals?

Why is it that someone can get so excited about the goals they want to achieve and then just give up on them?

If you’ve ever been one who set some goals but eventually gave up on them, maybe by recognizing some of these reasons that people quit on their goals will help you the next time to follow all the way thought.

This is by no means the full list of why people give up on their goals, but these are the most common reasons that I’ve seen.

They Care Too Much About What Other People Think

Have you ever been so excited about something that you just can’t wait to tell someone about it? You think it’s an awesome idea and you just can’t wait to share it because you know everyone else will feel the same way as you do. Then with all of your excitement you tell someone and they respond with something like:

“That’s a stupid idea… You could never do that… Yea right, quit dreaming…”

That’s tough. It hurts, it’s deflating. But you can’t let the thoughts or comments from others defeat you. If you believe in something and you really desire it, you have to be ready to deal with negative feedback in a way that won’t throw you off course of discourage you.

Check out Richie Norton’s book, The Power of Starting Something Stupid if you need some encouragement with your “stupid” ideas.

Failure and Discouragement

If you set your goals and you’re working hard to achieve them, does that make you immune to failure? Of course not. When you are working hard towards your goals but you fail, it’s tough. Maybe you’re discouraged. Maybe even embarrassed.

 At this point many people tell themselves they gave it their best and it just wasn’t good enough.  It’s over.

But it’s not over. All that you did was figured out a way that it wasn’t going to work. Keep your head high and get back to work.

It’s Too Hard

Some people get discouraged when they start to work on their goal and realize that it’s going to be a lot harder than they thought it would be. It’s going to take some work.
When it gets hard some people give up just because they lack the discipline to see it through. Some just don’t want it bad enough.

Focus on your goal and create that burning desire that will help you get through every obstacle and keep you excited when things get tough.

Self Doubt

Mindset is everything.

If you want to achieve your goals, you have to have a belief in yourself that you can do it.

You have to be able to kick the self-doubt thoughts out of your mind. 

You will be amazed at what you can accomplish if you just believe in yourself.

“In order for the transformation of ideas into things to work, a certain amount of belief is required; a certain mindset that lets you know in your heart that you can, and will, achieve what you set out to do.”

– Napoleon Hill


For the next 125 days, get control over these four things that can stop you or make you give up on your goals. 

Maybe you’re starting from scratch. Who cares. Just start. 

In 125 days the year 2020 is going to be here whether you get back on track with your goals or not. On that day are you going to wish you had continued working on your goals or are you going to be proud because you worked so hard on your goals whether you achieved them or not?

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Seven Levels Deep

Most people live life as it happens. Reacting to the things around them day by day. But real fulfillment in life comes when we are living a life on purpose.

Once you discover your WHY, you are better able to align your beliefs with every choice and action you take, in order to find greater fulfillment in all that you do.

You’ll be able to make more intentional choices for your business, your career and your life. You’ll be able to inspire others to buy from you, work with you and join your cause.

Never again should you have to play the lottery and act on gut decisions that are made for reasons you don’t really understand. From now on, you will work with purpose, on purpose. From now on, you’ll start with WHY.

Simon Sinek

Simon Sinek’s TEDx Talk, Start With Why – How Great Leaders Inspire Action, was probably the first time I really started to think about our WHY in business. He said, “People don’t buy WHAT you do; they buy WHY you do it.” 

Sinek’s 2009 TEDx Talk and his book, Start With Why, got many people thinking about their leadership and the ‘why’ of their businesses.

To live a fulfilled life, we also need to know our own personal ‘why.’

Why is it that you do what you do?

Why is it that you want more success? Why do you want to achieve more? Most people really don’t know these answers, even if they think they do. They know on the surface. They’ve thought about it. But when you can anchor it in your heart with feeling and emotions there will be no stopping you!

I was recently training with Dean Graziosi and he introduced me to The Seven Levels Deep tool. The best way to explain how it works is to tell you about my experience going through the process as if Dean was taking me through it.

Dean (Level 1):  “What is important to you about becoming successful?

Jeff: I’ve thought a lot about what success is to me, so this was a quick answer. “Becoming successful is important to me because I want to support my family and give them opportunities and experiences in life.”

Dean (Level 2):” Why is it important to you to support your family and give them these opportunities and experiences?”

Jeff:” I have experiences from growing up that really stand out to me. Great memories that are anchored in my mind. Our family trip to Disneyland in 1984. Trips to the lake in Montana. My parents at all my events whether it was hockey, basketball, football, rodeo or something else, they were there. That is what success has meant to me.  I want to have the means to cover our regular living expenses (i.e. support them), plus have enough to create opportunities and experiences that are special for our familyl, which other families may not have the opportunity to experience.” 

Dean (Level 3): “Great! To you, success means that you will have the means to provide for your family and create great experiences with them. Plus, you will be there for them. WHY?”

Jeff:a’ I want to be able to create those special experiences and opportunities so that my family has great memories of the time we spent together and the things that we did.”

Dean (Level 4): “Ok, Jeff, that’s great. Now you know that you want to provide for your family and give them special opportunities and experiences, and you want to do this so that they have great memories of the time they’ve spent together. But why?”

Jeff: “I want them to see me as a good provider. I want them to see me as a father that has taken care of them. A father that has created great opportunities and memories for them. I want them to remember the unique and special things they were able to do and feel that they are fortunate and special by being a part of our family. I want them to remember that I was always there for them and wanted to be a part of their lives. That I was there because I wanted to be, not because I felt obligated to be.”

At this point I thought I had figured it out. I’ve always looked at success in my life as being able to provide for and create special experiences for my family.  But I’ve figured it out. I want them to feel special and proud for being a part of our family. I want them to remember how important family was to me and how I worked hard but was there when they needed me.

Dean (Level 5): a’That’s great that you’re figuring this out Jeff, but we have only gone through Level 4, we have more to go. Lets go deeper. Why do you want them to remember the unique and special things your family is fortunate enough to do. Why is it that you want them to feel special and proud for being a part of your family?” 

Jeff: “I want them to love me, appreciate me, and be proud of me. I want them to look at their father as a success. In reflection I don’t want them to remember the times that I couldn’t provide as much as I wanted to or when I wasn’t there for them. I want them to love me and the things I did. I want them to tell their posterity about the things we did, the time we were able to spend together and the experiences we shared as a family or their experiences with just them and their father.”

Dean (Level 6): “Why?”

Jeff: As I thought more about it I replied, “II wanted my children to find success and I wanted to do everything in my power to help them find it. I want them to feel like I helped them find the opportunities they need to find success. I want them to have choices in their lives, to be able to go after their dreams and goals knowing they have the support of their parents behind them.”

Dean (Level 7): “Great! But that is only six. I have one more time to ask you.” He reviewed everything I had said and then asked, “why do you want your kids to have these choices?”

Jeff: As I started to think of this I thought of the different businesses I’ve run in my life. The things that made me want to be an entrepreneur. I thought about how often I noticed growing up that even though I had two other brothers who were just as busy as me with all their activities and sporting events, I always had one of my parents there to support me and I noticed this wasn’t the case with a lot of the kids. I want to be able to do that for my kids. I want to be in control. I want to live the way I want to live. I want to do the things I chose to do. I want to go to my kids assemblies, coach them and be there for them. I don’t want to have to ask for permission.” I want to be in control of my life, that is my why!”

Knowing my why helps me when I’m making decisions. It helps me when I’m having a difficult day. It helps me to keep my focus. Knowing what I want for my family, that I want my children to have choices and for them to know their parents are always there for them, and I’m in control of my life are the things that will make me jump out of bed ready to break through barriers each day.

So what is it that you want to do? 

Make more money? Learn a new skill? Overcome a fear?

WHY?

Go Seven-Levels deep with this and find your true why. Then use the power in than knowledge to make an impact and achieve the highest goals you have in your life!

You Can Do Hard Things

An Excerpt, with some minor edits, from a note I was sending someone hoping to help them in a tough spot. I wanted to share it here as well, just in case someone reads it that could gain something from it.

You have been searching for answers and feel that you are not getting them. I can promise you that there will be a day when you look back on this time and will be able to see blessings that you cannot see now. You will be able to see where His hand was guiding you. You will understand the Why. Why you had to go through this trial. Why it wasn’t easier. And that is how you will make a difference in the world for many, many people. There are people near you that need you now. There are people nowhere close to you now that are going to need you. Everyone is dealing with their own struggles and challenges and they need help. Most can’t be helped by someone that has the book smarts on the struggle. But the person who can make a difference, the person who can change their life, the person who can save them is the one who has been there. The one who has been in their shoes and has conquered that challenge. My friend lost a baby boy and a brother in a short period. Nobody could really help her through those difficult times that hadn’t been through something similar. But now, she can take those tragic experiences and help many others going through their own tragic times. I often recall an old Young Woman’s theme, “I can do hard things.” Every hard thing that you have pushed yourself through, whether it was in a relationship, a sport, in business or something else has prepared you for something you will go through and deal with at some point in the future. Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” You’ve been through hard things in the past and it has strengthened you. You are going to go through hard things throughout your life and they will continue to strengthen you. Right now may be the hardest thing that you have had to deal with up to this point of your life. You can do it. You will grow from it. You are amazing. YOU are going to make a difference in the world!

310 Pounds to Nike Athlete

I listened to Ed Mylett’s interview with Charlie Rocket today and loved it. Charlie’s story is so interesting and motivational. From discovering Travis Porter, launching Two Chainz to inspiring Nike’s recent Kaepernick commercial. At 5’8″ and 305lbs he decided he was an athlete and ten months later completed the Iron Man competition. He’s brilliant, he’s a thinker. He teaches so much. I just wanted to share the interview for others to be able to watch.

 

Book Quote of the Week – 017

“These men are known as capitalists. They are motivated by the desire to build, construct, achieve, render useful service, earn profits and accumulate riches. And, because they render service without which there would be no civilization, they put themselves in the way of great riches.”

Napoleon Hill

Book Quote of the Week – 013

“Treating success as an option is one of the major reasons why more people don’t create it for themselves – and why most people don’t even get close to living up to their full potential… 

If you don’t consider it your duty to live up to your potential, then you simply won’t. If it doesn’t become an ethical issue for you, then you won’t feel obligated and driven to fulfill your capacity.”

– Grant Cardone

How to Set Goals and Achieve Your Dreams

I have read Napoleon Hill’s, Think and Grow Rich, many times and have listened to the audio book even more. A friend saw me reading my well worn and well marked-up copy and asked why I’m reading it again.  This was a great question. If I’ve read the book before, why read it again? Did I forget everything that was in it? Do I forget everything each time I read it? Is that why I read it the third, fourth… tenth time? No, to me Think and Grow Rich is a book that I seem to gain some new insight from each and every time I read it. The book was written about what Napoleon Hill personally learned from the 500+ most successful men and women of his time. The valuable information within the pages of this book is something that I know I can continue to learn from throughout the rest of my life.
But another reason I re-read this book is because it helps me to refocus. Hill teaches that for one to succeed they must possess a definite purpose; the knowledge of what they want, and a burning desire to achieve it.  What brought me back to read Think and Grow Rich again was a chapter I recently read in The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success and Happiness by Jeff Oslon.
Chapter 16 in The Slight Edge is titled  “3 Steps to Your Dreams.” In this chapter Olson shares some of the same ideas that Napoleon Hill uses in his teaching. These two men have studied the most successful people of their times. If you have some dreams and goals that you want to achieve, it is well worth your time to learn from these two men. Of course you will learn much more by reading their entire books, but here I’m going to outline some of their thoughts that I think you will find very valuable in helping you achieve your dreams.
The Slight Edge
In The Slight Edge Olsen outlines three steps in achieving your goals. (1) Write it down; (2) Look at it every day; (3) Start with a plan.
Write It Down
 
  • He teaches that our most critical skill is envisioning and by writing down a specific goal or dream we can begin that process of seeing it in our mind as a reality.
  • When we write down our goal we need to be specific with the what and why behind it. In great detail, what is our goal and why is it so important to us?
  • As it is said, goals are dreams with a deadline. So we also need to add the when. When are you going to achieve this goal by?
  • Write your dreams down; be vivid and very specific; give them a timeline. With this information you have taken a giant step in the process of making your dreams a realization.
Look At It Every Day
 
  • You need to constantly be reminding yourself of where you are going and keeping your focus on your destination. Life has too many distractions and this will help you to stay on your path.
  • This will also trigger the subconscious mind to help you recognize the opportunities in life that cross your path that will help you to reach your target.
Start with a Plan
 
  • Simply come up with a plan to get you started. Olson recognizes that it’s probably not the plan that will help you to get to the end, but you need a plan to start the ball rolling. Writing your plan down and reading it every day as you sit and wait for the world to serve you won’t work. You need a plan and you need to act on this plan.
  • “People make the mistake that they can’t start until they have the perfect plan. There is no perfect plan.” – Jeff Olson
Think & Grow Rich
There’s a lot from Think and Grow Rich that could build upon what Olson has taught. But I’m just going to refer to a small section in the chapter on Desire where Hill states, “The method by which desire for riches can be transmuted into its financial equivalent consists of six definite, practical steps.” These six steps that he outlines will help us to achieve all of our dreams and goals.
  1. Be very specific and fix in your mind exactly what you want.
  2. Determine exactly what you are willing to do or give to achieve this dream you desire.
  3. Establish a definite date by which you will achieve your goal.
  4. Create a definite plan and begin at once.
  5. Take the above information and write a clear, concise statement of what you desire, the time frame by which you will achieve it, what you intend to do and give in return to achieve such a goal, and the clear plans you intend to act upon.
  6. Finally, read this written statement aloud, twice daily.
We’ve all heard it before. We all have the same number of hours in a day but it’s what we do with those hours that determines our future. Both Olson and Hill have studied the most successful achievers to come up with these steps. If you’re not where you want to be, maybe it’s time to give this a try!
If you really want to get on your path to success, read, study and apply what is taught in Think and Grow Rich and The Slight Edge.

Prompt: Dream

DESIRE – Think and Grow Rich

Desire —  a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen.
Desire is a key component in Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich, which teaches us what we need to do to be successful.
Many people desire many different things of which they never achieve. This is where we can learn a lot from what Hill teaches us. Just desiring something will not bring it to us. We all desire to be successful, but that is not enough.
Dominating Desire
If you really want to succeed at something it must become your dominating desire, your obsession.  You need to focus on your goal so much that it’s always in the forefront of your mind and you will recognize things that come into your life that will help you to make it happen.
Your Plan
But a burning desire is not enough. Desiring something will not make it automatically happen. You have to have a definite plan of action and you have to be committed to execute that plan until you succeed, no matter how long it takes and how many obstacles stand in your way.
Too often people have a desire and even a plan, but when they don’t see immediate results they give up or quite. Achievement will come when you have a burning desire with definite plans, backed with the persistence to keep going until you succeed.
Set your goal.
Develop your plan.
Don’t let failure or time lessen your focus and obsession.
Keep going until you achieve your goal
Think and Grow Rich is a book that you can learn something new from every time you read it or listen to it. If you haven’t read it, you need to read it soon. If you have read it, it’s probably time to read it again.
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