The end of the year is fast approaching. This is always an exciting time to be gauging the progress you’ve made and preparing to enter the new fresh year ahead.
As we approach the end of 2019, how have you done?
Have you achieved the goals you set for yourself at the beginning of the year?
Are you where you thought you would be? Where you want to be?
What can you still accomplish before the end of the year? Is there anything that just requires a little more focus and effort that you could achieve?
How are you approaching 2020?
Don’t wait until January 1 to get started.
Start planning now.
Set your goals now.
Start taking action on your plans and goals, now.
Get started and build momentum to hit the new year going full speed. Give yourself the unfair advantage of starting now and get a head start on 2020.
As we look back on the past year and start to prepare for the new year, it’s a great time to take a step back and look at where you are.
Where are your relationships at?
What are your personal circumstances?
What are your professional circumstances?
In each of these areas are you a giver or are you a taker?
What changes do you need to make?
Eric Thomas said, “If you are broke in any area of your life, it’s because you’re not adding enough value in that area.”
I want to focus on the topic of relationships. What value are you adding to your most important relationships?
How are you adding value?
When talking about the value added to a relationship, Eric Thomas suggests thinking about your five closest friends. Out of that group of five, you have to get rid of one, which one would it be? This question can usually be answered fairly fast. You know who it would be. It’s the one that is not adding as much value to the relationship as the others are.
There are people in your life that you can cut loose and it won’t change your life
If this is the case for you, it’s the same for everybody else too?
So, when you are looking at your relationships, ask yourself who you are in other people’s lives.
Who are you adding enough value to that they need you to be there?
Are you adding enough value to the relationships that you consider to be important?
If someone is willing to end their relationship with you, it’s not because you are adding a lot of value to the relationship.
The more value you can add to others, the more that will come back to you.
As you are setting your goals and planning for 2020, take a look at all of your important relationships.
Are you currently adding enough value?
What could you do to add more value?
Include this as part of the goal-setting process.
As you continually look to add value with no expectation of anything in return, you’ll have an opportunity to see an abundance of value being added to your life.
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In business, in life, in whatever you do, achieving and sustaining success is difficult
When you reach the top there’s always someone or something trying to knock you down or overtake you.
I was visiting with a friend last night, engaged in his stories of his days playing basketball in college. He had a great NCAA Division One career that began at the Junior College level. His JuCo team was great. They made it all the way to the national championship tournament. He was an amazing point guard with a great shot. He achieved success and reached the top, breaking the record for most three point shots made in a game with 9! What an incredible personal achievement. I’m not sure how long the previous record stood, but now he was the one people would be gunning for. He had the record to beat. That incredible achievement, setting a new record was hard to achieve and was accomplished by all the dedication and hard work he put in for years up to that point. He sat at the top of that throne until the next game of the tournament, where someone else made 13 three point shots. When you get to the top, there will always be others trying to knock you down.
On the path to success you’re going to hit walls and face challenges. This is where many will fall off the path and the crowd gets thinner. As you get past each wall, the weak are eliminated and it’s the achievers who are still going. The more difficult it is, the less competition there will be. But those left to compete against will be the best. The weak have been left behind. The more walls of difficulty along the path, the less that will stick with you and the further you separate yourself from the competition.
Accept the fact and understand that the path to success will be hard. But as you get past those hard things it becomes easier. But know that when you feel the coast is clear, or that you are at the top, there’s more coming that you need to be ready for.
Success is going to require you to do hard things. Start today by doing the hard things first. Climb over that first wall today and keep going. The more you do this, the more you will separate yourself and achieving your success becomes easier.
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Have you ever met someone that is an honest, hard worker but they never seem to be able to get ahead in life or achieve anything of significance? Yet you watch others who don’t seem to work as hard and everything just seems to fall in their lap? Have you ever seen someone that has been extremely successful lose it all and end up with absolutely nothing, but they soon turn things around and climb back up to the top while others just can’t seem to catch a break?
As I was pondering this topic I had a voice come into my head that told me a story that I’ve heard many, many times. One of the very first personal development audio books I ever listened to was Earl Nightingale’s 1957 book,The Strangest Secret.
This is his story that kept coming to mind:
“The difference is goals. People with goals succeed because they know where they’re going. It’s that simple. Failures, on the other hand, believe that their lives are shaped by circumstances… by things that happen to them… be exterior forces.
Think of a ship with a complete voyage mapped out and planned. The captain and crew know exactly where the ship is going and how long it will take – it has a definite foal. And 9,999 times out of 10,000, it will get there.
Now let’s take another ship – just like the first – only let’s not put a crew on it, or a captain at the helm. Let’s give it no aiming point, no goal, and no destination. We just start the engines and let it go. I think you’ll agree that if it gets out of the harbor at all, it will either sink or wind up on some deserted beach – a derelict. It can’t go any place because it has no destination and no guidance.”
So many people are going through life like the ship without a crew. They have no goals or clear direction. They just react to life as it happens.
If this is you, it needs to change. If you don’t get clear about where you’re headed, you won’t get out of the harbor.
Where Are You Now?
The first thing that you need to do is be completely honest with yourself and look at where you are now. What is your current status? We are going to work to find your destination. This is your starting point
As you look at the truth of your situation, what are your pain points? Why are you here?
Do you want to make more money? Do you want more time for yourself or your family? Do you want to work on your health? Do you want to fix your marriage or relationship? Scale your business? Write a book? Complete your first real estate deal? Get specific.
Stop ignoring your truth. Stop avoiding it. This is for you, tell the truth!
If it’s, “I want to make more money.” Go deeper, don’t stop there. Maybe it’s, “I want to make more money because I’m behind on all my payments. I can’t get ahead and I’m scared.” Uncover the truth.
Where Do You Want To Go?
You need clarity to create the future you want. You need to know where you are going to point the ship to get out of the harbor and end up at your destination.
In our busy, crazy lives it can be hard to set your goals and figure out where you want to go. But I learned a method from Dean Graziosi that allows you to extract yourself from all the craziness and figure out where you want to go by looking at life from a different perspective.
Imagine that it is one year from today and you are looking back. It has been the best year of your life! What does that look like? What happened that made it the best year of your life? It wasn’t just a really good year, it was the Best Year!
You lost the weight? You made the money? You got the guy? You got the girl? You completed your first real estate deal? You sold your company?
What happened that made it the best year of your life? Think big! In The Power of Focus, Jack Canfield says, “Think big. Create goals that get you so excited you can hardly sleep at night. Life has a lot to offer – why shouldn’t you enjoy your fair share?”
You’ve identified the things that would have happened to make it the best year of your life. Now step back to today, those are your goals.
Why Are These Goals Important?
You have your goals now, but why are they so important to you?
Maybe your goal make a certain amount of money. But why? Why do you really want that?
Is it to prove something? Is it for significance? Is it so you can buy something?
Whatever it is, there’s something deeper to your reason. What’s your WHY?
Start with the goal you’ve identified and ask why you want to achieve this goal. Put your heart into the answer. Once you’ve identified that answer, ask why you want that answer. This takes time, it takes thought and it takes effort. But every single time you find your answer, ask ‘why’ until you’ve don’t it seven times. If you are open and honest, you will uncover the real reason these goals are important to you. Your ‘WHY’!
Your ‘why’ is going to be what drives you day in and day out to stay focused on achieving these goals. There will be days where, “I want to lose weight,” or “I want more money” won’t motivate you and keep you going. But when you’ve identified the ‘why’ behind each of these goals, that’s what will get you out of bed in the morning.
What Capabilities Are Needed To Achieve These Goals?
You know where you are. You know where you want to go. You know ‘why’ you want to go there.
How are you going to get there? Your current capabilities have got you to where you are now. What capabilities do you need to get to the next level? What capabilities do you need to achieve your goals?
Do you need a trainer? Do you need someone that understands how to market on social media? Do you need a CFO? Identify what it is you need and document it.
Once you’ve identified what you need, you have to figure out where it will come from.
Talk to a coach or a mentor. Join a mastermind group or a networking group. Whatever capabilities that you need and you are lacking, someone else already has them. As you serve others and as you network, keep this topic as a part of your discussion until you discover how you can get what you need.
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It was thought that running a mile in under 4-minutes was physically impossible for any human being. Until, at Oxford University’s Iffley Road Stadium in 1954, Roger Bannister completed four laps in 3:59.4. The photo of an exhausted Bannister with his eyes closed and mouth opened appeared on the front page of newspapers around the world, a testament of what humankind could achieve.
As important as anything, Bannister broke a psychological barrier with this run. This once believed impossible record only lasted for 46 days before Australian runner John Landy shaved 1.5 seconds off of his time. By the end of 1957, 16 runners had logged sub-4-minute miles. Since that time more than 1,400 runners have broken the 4 minute mile and the current record stands at 3:43.13. An impossible task until Bannister changed that belief.
Similar to the impossible 4-minute mile, breaking the 2-hour marathon (26.2 miles) was another barrier that seemed would never happen. In fact, researchers in Australia crunched marathon world records over the past 60 years and concluded that there was a 10 percent likelihood that the two-hour mark would fall by 2032, and just a 5 percent chance it would happen by 2024.
Last week, on October 12, 2019 Eliud Kipchoge ran the fastest 26.2 miles ever and broke through the seemingly impossible barrier of two hours with a time of 1:59:40. That is an incredible sub-4:34 mile pace for the entire distance.
Just like when Bannister broke the 4-minute mile barrier in 1954, Kipchoge has inspired a new generation to push their limits with what is possible.
“It is a great feeling to make history in sport after Sir Roger Bannister in 1954. I am the happiest man in the world to be the first human to run under two hours, and I can tell people that no human is limited,” Kipchoge said. “I expect more people all over the world to run under two hours after today.”
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”
To live the life you truly desire, the first step is to break through the psychological barriers that are holding you back. You have to believe that you can get there.
Kipchoge believed he could break the two-hour barrier. Before the event he said, “Many ideologies [have] been going that no human will break the two-hour mark but personally, I have dared to try. I am doing it to make history.” After the race he said, “there was no point that I doubted myself.”
Look around. Your biggest dreams, the life you really want is not the 4-minute mile or the 2-hour marathon. Most likely, there’s already someone that is living that life. You don’t need to wait for someone to break through that psychological barrier before you can achieve it. That barrier has already been broken.
Your first step to achieving your goals is believing you can do it.
Where do you really want to be? What are your big goals? Identify the real and the imagined barriers that are holding you back. It’s time to break through those barriers and reach your true potential! Stop believing your own lies.
Not knowing how to do it. Not seeing the path. Thinking it’s impossible. These are all excuses that you’ve told yourself. Kipchoge figured out how to run a sub-2 hour marathon, you can figure out how to achieve the life you want.
Once you really believe you can achieve your goals you need to give yourself a path to follow so you’ll be able to reach the goals you previously thought were impossible.
In May of 2017, Kipchoge came up just shy of the two-hour mark during Nike’s Breaking2 project, finishing with a time of 2:00:25. After missing the mark by less than half a minute, he created the path he needed to follow to accomplish the goal a little more than two years later. This included his training and preparation all the way through to the pace setters and water delivery during the run.
Planning is key to your success. Figure out how you’re going to reach your ultimate goals and follow that plan. But be flexible so you can adjust quickly and make decisions when road blocks appear.
“The best way to predict your future is to create it.”
If at times you get knocked off your path it doesn’t mean it’s over. Adjust and figure out how to get back on the path again. Brian Tracy said, “Your ability to persist longer than anyone else is the quality that will guarantee great success in life. Persistence is self-discipline in action and the true measure of your belief in yourself. Resolve in advance that you will never, never give up!”
The first step in your journey is to see in your mind what it is that you really want and to truly believe you are capable of achieving it. The mind is a powerful force and when you use it to create the life and the outcomes you desire, amazing things will happen.
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We all have to deal with negative people at some point. How do you deal with it?
You need to be conscious of the impact it has on you. I can recall when I’ve been around the negative energy and attitude of someone and the next thing I know I’m unloading negativity onto someone else.
Just stay away from negative people. Eliminate them from your life. Who cares what they think… Right?
It’s really not quite that easy, so then what?
Some people are chronically negative. They are always complaining. Finding the bad in everything. The Eeyore’s of the world.
With others it may be out of character but something has triggered them to be in a mood.
A while ago I wrote,“The Crowd’s Chanting ‘Airball’… You’re Thinking, ‘NEXT!’” I talked about how you have to deal with negativity by moving on. I used a Tweet from Gary Vaynerchuk as an example where he said “I just don’t give a @$%& about what anybody thinks about me, because they don’t know who the *&^% I am inside.”
But here’s the thing. The context of that article was talking about the impact of your own negative self-talk and the negative feedback from social media. Sometimes the “I don’t care” attitude and brushing them off might be the answer, but not all the time.
When you consciously prepare for something before it happens, you are better able to deal with it when you’re actually in the situation because you can stop yourself from reacting based on emotions.
When you have to deal with negative people, keep these four points in mind:
Decide Your Response and Don’t Allow Yourself to Get Sucked In
You always have the choice to decide your response. In Man’s search for Meaning, Viktor E. Frankl said, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
It doesn’t matter how negative, nasty or degrading someone is to you. You are always the one choosing how you respond. Don’t let your emotions dictate your reaction and suck you into their negativity.
Don’t Let Their Problem Become Your Problem
Often, when someone is spewing their negativity onto you, it really has nothing to do with you at all. But they want someone on their side. They want someone to agree with them or just listen to them on whatever it is they are ranting about.
It’s not your job to justify their negativity, fix their problem or take it upon yourself. Don’t allow yourself to become everyone’s problem solver and become infected with their negativity.
Hold Your Tongue
This one can be a challenge. There will be times that it’s not just a negative person you are dealing with. Sometimes they will be attacking you, someone you love, your thoughts or your goals.
When this happens you need to stand up for yourself, right? Will it really change anything if you do? You might feel like you have to justify your thoughts or actions, but you don’t.
“In life, it’s important to know when to stop arguing with people and simply let them be wrong.”
Don’t Let Them Change Your Path
If someone tells you that your dreams are unrealistic, should you change them? As you read that I’m sure you thought to yourself, “of course not.” But are you sure? Have you ever been excited about something only to share it with someone and you were deflated after you saw their response? Maybe they even laughed at it or told you that you’re crazy.
I’m blessed with the most supportive wife in the world. From day one, I’ve been able to come to her with any of my crazy dreams and she’s automatically by biggest supporter and cheerleader.
Recently we were discussing some of our business ideas and activities and she made a comment that crushed me. For the first time in my life I felt like I didn’t have her support in something that I was excited about. I began questioning myself. What am I thinking? Why did I think I could or should do this? But I was able to gather myself and remember the thought and preparation I had put into the idea before beginning it, and I knew it was the right thing.
Luckily I also soon realized that I misinterpreted her comment and she’s still my number one supporter!
When you know you’re on the right path, don’t let the negativity of someone else change it.
Our attitudes are a choice that we have. Just as someone’s negative attitude or personality can have an impact on others, your positive attitude and excitement can have an impact on others as well.
Everyone is dealing with some kind of challenge. Be the light in their life!
You’ve probably heard the Jim Rohn quote before, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
How true is this statement? If it’s true, what areas of your life does it impact?
It is true, and it impacts every aspect of your life. Your level of wealth, your happiness, aspirations and goals, health and physical condition, relationships and attitudes. I could keep going.
We want our kids to hang out with good friends that will be positive influences on them. In Surround Yourself With Greatness, Chad Lewis says, “It is vital to surround ourselves with good friends as it is for a fish to live in water, especially in our teenage years. It is critically important to our lives, our future, our health, and our safety to be around positive influences, people who don’t tempt us but rather help us make good decisions. A friend who sees the good in us and encourages us to be our best self is worth more than his weight in pure gold.”
It’s no different in our adult lives. It is vital that we surround ourselves with the right people.
“He that walks with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”
If the people you spend the most time with have a negative outlook on life, focus on the bad, are always blaming others for their difficulties and are generally just negative, how do you expect to be happy and have a positive approach to life?
Look at the people around you. Are they more successful than you? Are they doing and working towards the things that you want in your life? What direction are they going? Where are they going to be in twenty years? Is it the direction you want to be going? They are either pulling you up, or dragging you down. Which is it?
InThink and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill said, “Every man is what he is, because of the dominating thoughts which he permits to occupy his mind… We are what we are, because of the vibrations of thought which we pick up and register, through the stimuli of our daily environment.”
The people around you can elevate you as much as they bring you down. I have a business partner that always has huge goals and aspirations and always has an incredibly positive attitude towards life and the future. Sometimes when I’m faced with difficulties and things just aren’t working out, I’ll go meet with him just for the pep talk. I know that just by spending time with him and talking with him I’ll leave with a positive attitude ready and excited to take on the world!
Who do you want to be? What goals do you have?
Are you getting closer to your goals or do you seem to keep running into obstacles that are holding you back?
Now, who are the five people that you currently spend the most time with? Do these people match who you want to be in the future?
Who are the top five people who embody the qualities you desire, or have done the things you are aspiring towards? How can you increase your contact with them?
You want those you spend time with to encourage and support you. You want them to help you achieve your goals. If you’re always the smartest, strongest, richest, whatever-est person in your group, you are in the wrong group. You need someone to motivate and inspire you to get better. To make you think bigger and believe it is possible.
It’s amazing the impact people can have in your life through their example, encouragement and belief in you. Just be honest with yourself as you look around and recognize if your relationships are empowering you and helping you to achieve your dreams.
Take a moment and look at your life. The year 2020 is 125 days away. Let that sink in. Is this where you thought you would be in 2020?
When you were a little kid, what did 2020 look like in your mind?
When you were a young adult, what were you going to do with your life by 2020?
What about January 1, 2019? What were you going to accomplish this year?
Many people take a good, hard look at their lives at the end of each year and set their big hairy audacious goals for the coming year, and then they forget about them for eleven and a half months.
Let’s stop right now and take a look at this. If you have been focused and taking massive actions on your 2019 goals, congratulations. Keep it up. I hope you achieve everything you desire.
For everyone else, I want you to look back on the past eight months. What were those goals and desires? What’s held you back from achieving them? Are you even trying to achieve them still?
Now reset. Get your butt back in gear.
Do you realize what is possible in 125 days? Yea, it would be nice if you could just continue off the momentum of the past 240 days, but if they haven’t been as productive as they should have been, don’t give up on the year.
Why do people give up on their goals?
Why is it that someone can get so excited about the goals they want to achieve and then just give up on them?
If you’ve ever been one who set some goals but eventually gave up on them, maybe by recognizing some of these reasons that people quit on their goals will help you the next time to follow all the way thought.
This is by no means the full list of why people give up on their goals, but these are the most common reasons that I’ve seen.
They Care Too Much About What Other People Think
Have you ever been so excited about something that you just can’t wait to tell someone about it? You think it’s an awesome idea and you just can’t wait to share it because you know everyone else will feel the same way as you do. Then with all of your excitement you tell someone and they respond with something like:
“That’s a stupid idea… You could never do that… Yea right, quit dreaming…”
That’s tough. It hurts, it’s deflating. But you can’t let the thoughts or comments from others defeat you. If you believe in something and you really desire it, you have to be ready to deal with negative feedback in a way that won’t throw you off course of discourage you.
If you set your goals and you’re working hard to achieve them, does that make you immune to failure? Of course not. When you are working hard towards your goals but you fail, it’s tough. Maybe you’re discouraged. Maybe even embarrassed.
At this point many people tell themselves they gave it their best and it just wasn’t good enough. It’s over.
But it’s not over. All that you did was figured out a way that it wasn’t going to work. Keep your head high and get back to work.
It’s Too Hard
Some people get discouraged when they start to work on their goal and realize that it’s going to be a lot harder than they thought it would be. It’s going to take some work. When it gets hard some people give up just because they lack the discipline to see it through. Some just don’t want it bad enough.
Focus on your goal and create that burning desire that will help you get through every obstacle and keep you excited when things get tough.
Mindset is everything.
If you want to achieve your goals, you have to have a belief in yourself that you can do it.
You have to be able to kick the self-doubt thoughts out of your mind.
You will be amazed at what you can accomplish if you just believe in yourself.
“In order for the transformation of ideas into things to work, a certain amount of belief is required; a certain mindset that lets you know in your heart that you can, and will, achieve what you set out to do.”
– Napoleon Hill
For the next 125 days, get control over these four things that can stop you or make you give up on your goals.
Maybe you’re starting from scratch. Who cares. Just start.
In 125 days the year 2020 is going to be here whether you get back on track with your goals or not. On that day are you going to wish you had continued working on your goals or are you going to be proud because you worked so hard on your goals whether you achieved them or not?
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Most people live life as it happens. Reacting to the things around them day by day. But real fulfillment in life comes when we are living a life on purpose.
Once you discover your WHY, you are better able to align your beliefs with every choice and action you take, in order to find greater fulfillment in all that you do.
You’ll be able to make more intentional choices for your business, your career and your life. You’ll be able to inspire others to buy from you, work with you and join your cause.
Never again should you have to play the lottery and act on gut decisions that are made for reasons you don’t really understand. From now on, you will work with purpose, on purpose. From now on, you’ll start with WHY.
Sinek’s 2009 TEDx Talk and his book, Start With Why, got many people thinking about their leadership and the ‘why’ of their businesses.
To live a fulfilled life, we also need to know our own personal ‘why.’
Why is it that you do what you do?
Why is it that you want more success? Why do you want to achieve more? Most people really don’t know these answers, even if they think they do. They know on the surface. They’ve thought about it. But when you can anchor it in your heart with feeling and emotions there will be no stopping you!
I was recently training with Dean Graziosi and he introduced me to The Seven Levels Deep tool. The best way to explain how it works is to tell you about my experience going through the process as if Dean was taking me through it.
Dean (Level 1): “What is important to you about becoming successful?“
Jeff: I’ve thought a lot about what success is to me, so this was a quick answer. “Becoming successful is important to me because I want to support my family and give them opportunities and experiences in life.”
Dean (Level 2):” Why is it important to you to support your family and give them these opportunities and experiences?”
Jeff:” I have experiences from growing up that really stand out to me. Great memories that are anchored in my mind. Our family trip to Disneyland in 1984. Trips to the lake in Montana. My parents at all my events whether it was hockey, basketball, football, rodeo or something else, they were there. That is what success has meant to me. I want to have the means to cover our regular living expenses (i.e. support them), plus have enough to create opportunities and experiences that are special for our familyl, which other families may not have the opportunity to experience.”
Dean (Level 3): “Great! To you, success means that you will have the means to provide for your family and create great experiences with them. Plus, you will be there for them. WHY?”
Jeff:a’ I want to be able to create those special experiences and opportunities so that my family has great memories of the time we spent together and the things that we did.”
Dean (Level 4): “Ok, Jeff, that’s great. Now you know that you want to provide for your family and give them special opportunities and experiences, and you want to do this so that they have great memories of the time they’ve spent together. But why?”
Jeff: “I want them to see me as a good provider. I want them to see me as a father that has taken care of them. A father that has created great opportunities and memories for them. I want them to remember the unique and special things they were able to do and feel that they are fortunate and special by being a part of our family. I want them to remember that I was always there for them and wanted to be a part of their lives. That I was there because I wanted to be, not because I felt obligated to be.”
At this point I thought I had figured it out. I’ve always looked at success in my life as being able to provide for and create special experiences for my family. But I’ve figured it out. I want them to feel special and proud for being a part of our family. I want them to remember how important family was to me and how I worked hard but was there when they needed me.
Dean (Level 5): a’That’s great that you’re figuring this out Jeff, but we have only gone through Level 4, we have more to go. Lets go deeper. Why do you want them to remember the unique and special things your family is fortunate enough to do. Why is it that you want them to feel special and proud for being a part of your family?”
Jeff: “I want them to love me, appreciate me, and be proud of me. I want them to look at their father as a success. In reflection I don’t want them to remember the times that I couldn’t provide as much as I wanted to or when I wasn’t there for them. I want them to love me and the things I did. I want them to tell their posterity about the things we did, the time we were able to spend together and the experiences we shared as a family or their experiences with just them and their father.”
Dean (Level 6): “Why?”
Jeff: As I thought more about it I replied, “II wanted my children to find success and I wanted to do everything in my power to help them find it. I want them to feel like I helped them find the opportunities they need to find success. I want them to have choices in their lives, to be able to go after their dreams and goals knowing they have the support of their parents behind them.”
Dean (Level 7): “Great! But that is only six. I have one more time to ask you.” He reviewed everything I had said and then asked, “why do you want your kids to have these choices?”
Jeff: As I started to think of this I thought of the different businesses I’ve run in my life. The things that made me want to be an entrepreneur. I thought about how often I noticed growing up that even though I had two other brothers who were just as busy as me with all their activities and sporting events, I always had one of my parents there to support me and I noticed this wasn’t the case with a lot of the kids. I want to be able to do that for my kids. I want to be in control. I want to live the way I want to live. I want to do the things I chose to do. I want to go to my kids assemblies, coach them and be there for them. I don’t want to have to ask for permission.” I want to be in control of my life, that is my why!”
Knowing my why helps me when I’m making decisions. It helps me when I’m having a difficult day. It helps me to keep my focus. Knowing what I want for my family, that I want my children to have choices and for them to know their parents are always there for them, and I’m in control of my life are the things that will make me jump out of bed ready to break through barriers each day.
So what is it that you want to do?
Make more money? Learn a new skill? Overcome a fear?
Go Seven-Levels deep with this and find your true why. Then use the power in than knowledge to make an impact and achieve the highest goals you have in your life!
An Excerpt, with some minor edits, from a note I was sending someone hoping to help them in a tough spot. I wanted to share it here as well, just in case someone reads it that could gain something from it.
You have been searching for answers and feel that you are not getting them. I can promise you that there will be a day when you look back on this time and will be able to see blessings that you cannot see now. You will be able to see where His hand was guiding you. You will understand the Why. Why you had to go through this trial. Why it wasn’t easier. And that is how you will make a difference in the world for many, many people. There are people near you that need you now. There are people nowhere close to you now that are going to need you. Everyone is dealing with their own struggles and challenges and they need help. Most can’t be helped by someone that has the book smarts on the struggle. But the person who can make a difference, the person who can change their life, the person who can save them is the one who has been there. The one who has been in their shoes and has conquered that challenge. My friend lost a baby boy and a brother in a short period. Nobody could really help her through those difficult times that hadn’t been through something similar. But now, she can take those tragic experiences and help many others going through their own tragic times. I often recall an old Young Woman’s theme, “I can do hard things.” Every hard thing that you have pushed yourself through, whether it was in a relationship, a sport, in business or something else has prepared you for something you will go through and deal with at some point in the future. Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” You’ve been through hard things in the past and it has strengthened you. You are going to go through hard things throughout your life and they will continue to strengthen you. Right now may be the hardest thing that you have had to deal with up to this point of your life. You can do it. You will grow from it. You are amazing. YOU are going to make a difference in the world!
I listened to Ed Mylett’s interview with Charlie Rocket today and loved it. Charlie’s story is so interesting and motivational. From discovering Travis Porter, launching Two Chainz to inspiring Nike’s recent Kaepernick commercial. At 5’8″ and 305lbs he decided he was an athlete and ten months later completed the Iron Man competition. He’s brilliant, he’s a thinker. He teaches so much. I just wanted to share the interview for others to be able to watch.
“These men are known as capitalists. They are motivated by the desire to build, construct, achieve, render useful service, earn profits and accumulate riches. And, because they render service without which there would be no civilization, they put themselves in the way of great riches.”
“Treating success as an option is one of the major reasons why more people don’t create it for themselves – and why most people don’t even get close to living up to their full potential…
If you don’t consider it your duty to live up to your potential, then you simply won’t. If it doesn’t become an ethical issue for you, then you won’t feel obligated and driven to fulfill your capacity.”
I have read Napoleon Hill’s, Think and Grow Rich, many times and have listened to the audio book even more. A friend saw me reading my well worn and well marked-up copy and asked why I’m reading it again. This was a great question. If I’ve read the book before, why read it again? Did I forget everything that was in it? Do I forget everything each time I read it? Is that why I read it the third, fourth… tenth time? No, to me Think and Grow Rich is a book that I seem to gain some new insight from each and every time I read it. The book was written about what Napoleon Hill personally learned from the 500+ most successful men and women of his time. The valuable information within the pages of this book is something that I know I can continue to learn from throughout the rest of my life.
Chapter 16 in The Slight Edge is titled “3 Steps to Your Dreams.” In this chapter Olson shares some of the same ideas that Napoleon Hill uses in his teaching. These two men have studied the most successful people of their times. If you have some dreams and goals that you want to achieve, it is well worth your time to learn from these two men. Of course you will learn much more by reading their entire books, but here I’m going to outline some of their thoughts that I think you will find very valuable in helping you achieve your dreams.
The Slight Edge
In The Slight Edge Olsen outlines three steps in achieving your goals. (1) Write it down; (2) Look at it every day; (3) Start with a plan.
Write It Down
He teaches that our most critical skill is envisioning and by writing down a specific goal or dream we can begin that process of seeing it in our mind as a reality.
When we write down our goal we need to be specific with the what and why behind it. In great detail, what is our goal and why is it so important to us?
As it is said, goals are dreams with a deadline. So we also need to add the when. When are you going to achieve this goal by?
Write your dreams down; be vivid and very specific; give them a timeline. With this information you have taken a giant step in the process of making your dreams a realization.
Look At It Every Day
You need to constantly be reminding yourself of where you are going and keeping your focus on your destination. Life has too many distractions and this will help you to stay on your path.
This will also trigger the subconscious mind to help you recognize the opportunities in life that cross your path that will help you to reach your target.
Start with a Plan
Simply come up with a plan to get you started. Olson recognizes that it’s probably not the plan that will help you to get to the end, but you need a plan to start the ball rolling. Writing your plan down and reading it every day as you sit and wait for the world to serve you won’t work. You need a plan and you need to act on this plan.
“People make the mistake that they can’t start until they have the perfect plan. There is no perfect plan.” – Jeff Olson
Think & Grow Rich
There’s a lot from Think and Grow Rich that could build upon what Olson has taught. But I’m just going to refer to a small section in the chapter on Desire where Hill states, “The method by which desire for riches can be transmuted into its financial equivalent consists of six definite, practical steps.” These six steps that he outlines will help us to achieve all of our dreams and goals.
Be very specific and fix in your mind exactly what you want.
Determine exactly what you are willing to do or give to achieve this dream you desire.
Establish a definite date by which you will achieve your goal.
Create a definite plan and begin at once.
Take the above information and write a clear, concise statement of what you desire, the time frame by which you will achieve it, what you intend to do and give in return to achieve such a goal, and the clear plans you intend to act upon.
Finally, read this written statement aloud, twice daily.
We’ve all heard it before. We all have the same number of hours in a day but it’s what we do with those hours that determines our future. Both Olson and Hill have studied the most successful achievers to come up with these steps. If you’re not where you want to be, maybe it’s time to give this a try!
Many people desire many different things of which they never achieve. This is where we can learn a lot from what Hill teaches us. Just desiring something will not bring it to us. We all desire to be successful, but that is not enough.
If you really want to succeed at something it must become your dominating desire, your obsession. You need to focus on your goal so much that it’s always in the forefront of your mind and you will recognize things that come into your life that will help you to make it happen.
But a burning desire is not enough. Desiring something will not make it automatically happen. You have to have a definite plan of action and you have to be committed to execute that plan until you succeed, no matter how long it takes and how many obstacles stand in your way.
Too often people have a desire and even a plan, but when they don’t see immediate results they give up or quite. Achievement will come when you have a burning desire with definite plans, backed with the persistence to keep going until you succeed.
Set your goal.
Develop your plan.
Don’t let failure or time lessen your focus and obsession.
Keep going until you achieve your goal
Think and Grow Rich is a book that you can learn something new from every time you read it or listen to it. If you haven’t read it, you need to read it soon. If you have read it, it’s probably time to read it again.
You can find a collection of Hill’s different books HERE